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Bullying on our complex – now stress-free with EFT

To cut a long story short… We moved into this complex with us and our landlady thinking we had the right to have a cat. And cats roam. This means that unless a cat owner keeps all windows and doors at least almost-shut at all times, the cat will go out. Then two weeks ago, we got an anonymous death threat to our cat and other cats on this part of the complex. Part of it had to do with mistaken identity, the rest to do with a wife that lets our cat in and talks to her and a husband who is terrified of cats, plus a sad excuse of an old has-been who still thinks it’s Apartheid era. My first reaction was terror, then I mobilized with my spouse to leaflet all potential cat owners to take action and be heard. Not a peep, we’re talking generations of Apartheid fear here, so no-one came forward. Then our landlady got an order from the body corporate managing agent (a corrupt body that half-owns the estate and is entrusted with running it by law) that we must lock up our “animal”, who has become a “nuisance” entering into someone’s flat, making it clear that we did not have a choice. Naturally, I was incensed. Our landlady (bless her) contacted them back, explaining that it is a case of mistaken identity (there is an aggressive male cat our friends here mistook for ours until they finally saw her), and saying that we will be locking the cat up. We tried living with all windows and doors closed, Kai was sad, resigned, and I got hateful and depressed. I tapped and tapped, and tapped with my spouse and tapped with Kai, our beloved furbaby. Finally, we decided to look at other properties, and if we find a suitable one, to go back to our landlady and negotiate for a way to leave before the lease is up, although we really like her and she does not deserve to be part of this, having been through the same here herself.

Kai the cat

With the tapping and viewing excellent properties, we decided to stay put and save our money from getting out of our contract early. Today, we went to see a film and upon our return, Kai went out despite our efforts, and all of a sudden, the tapping, the film (Monsters and Aliens, about it being OK to be different), seeing other, amazing properties, I was calm enough to see the truth:

  • If it’s the neighbor next door, he wouldn’t kill her, he’s too scared of cats and has his career to consider
  • If it’s the psycho we suspect, he’s a known psycho now that he’s made his complaint official, so he wouldn’t dare kill her because he’d be caught
  • If Kai going out gets us evicted, that’s doing us a favor anyway (sorry lovely landlady)

So I was laughing my head off as finally I had clear thinking about this. We will be keeping her in all night, and being more careful during times the psychos on this complex are about, and otherwise, we will not be forcing ourselves or our furbaby to live inside a prison. We will open the windows and doors and if she goes out, she goes out.

So in these turbulent two weeks, I went from extreme stress wanting to flee my home, with all the expensive crippling penalties that entails, to calm. I also no longer hate the psychos, I feel at peace now with them. I know to watch out for them, I know not to drop my guard, but I feel calm.

When you have a chronic physical condition, anything that either emotionally or physically has a negative impact on you can make the condition worse. EFT is one way of throwing away the emotional rubbish collecting in your system. In the same way that we dispose of our household rubbish regularly for home cleanliness and hygiene, I use EFT to dispose of negative emotions for my optimal physical health.

EFT with Me, Suzanne Zacharia, Practitioner

EFT Workshops Cape Town South Africa—— EFT Course London SE UK ——

Disclaimer – You are advised to consult with your medical practitioner before embarking on any course of alternative, complementary, or beauty therapy. Our use of systems that are trademarked or have a registered trademark represents our views and not necessarily those of the trademark owners.

Check out my new self-confidence program made when I got even better than at the time of this post 🙂 See videos of me on the page of this link and see for yourself how much EFT has helped me with my health. Thank you for reading this post and please share with someone who needs it 🙂

Apartheid Horror

Oh dear, yet again I lose a call to a torrent of abuse. There is a way to talk to sensitive clients without allowing them to abuse me, but it’s about getting that balance right. The first call this morning, as soon as I started my sales patter, I got a torrent of abuse. So I tapped, discussed it with my spouse, who advised me to smile as I talk, as I was not smiling and my tone of voice came over more harsh than friendly. Then I remembered a call, where I called a lady to offer her a very special offer, a huge discount of an eighth of the amount. She told me that she had just been on holiday with her husband and several children to a destination which is known to be very expensive to travel to. As I was telling her I wanted to make her a very attractive offer, if she could attend the course and fill and empty place for me, she freaked out completely. I said “Don’t you want to know what the offer is?” to which she retorted with a torrent of abuse. I tried to calm her, and she freaked out and put the phone down.

OK, that was first thing this morning. Then I had to stop at the above paragraph before doing a two-hour phone hypnosis and EFT session with a client Now as I read the above, I feel a zero. However, when I close my eyes and remember, it’s a 4. And what I see in my mind’s eye is the beautiful holiday location that this rich woman and her family went to, whilst she begrudges a worker like myself making any money, even at a huge discount.

Setup

“Beautiful [expensive holiday location], rich woman and family begrudging me any payment, I deeply love and accept myself”

Reminder

“Beautiful [expensive holiday location], rich woman and family begrudging me any payment”

I cannot connect to this memory anymore. It’s a zero, total fade-out. But now biggest in my mind is this morning’s call. It’s the thought that for many people here in this country, especially some white women, a person making enough money from an honest living has “attitude”. It’s like, how dare this person make money. The years and expense of study that I needed to do to qualify mean nothing to most white South Africans in Cape Town, whose idea of a complementary therapist is a person with a week’s training (if that) who peddles their services in flea markets. It’s like, I got this call from a white woman and my blood immediately ran cold. I know I have to deal with this. It’s shot up to an 8.

Setup:

“Even though I’m terrified and aghast at some white women in Cape Town, I deeply love and accept myself. Even though they think I have “attitude” to ask for payment, no wonder their black maid makes less than she can live on, dies young, and all the other disgusting injustices in the beautiful place with … people, I deeply love and accept myself. Even though I’m terrified of white women calling and treating me like dirt, I deeply love and accept myself. I forgive myself for not smiling this morning, I was too scared to smile and forgot to fake it or tap. I should have tapped, I should have faked a smile, I should have tried harder to let go of this terror of talking to certain white women, but I didn’t. Even though she said I had “attitude”, how dare she, I remember that she had her circumstances, her background, and I forgive her. Even though I feel really bad I didn’t handle it better, think faster, already know how to sell to Cape Town white women, I forgive myself”

Reminder:

“I forgive myself, even when I can’t. I will smile when I talk, I will “smile as you dial” next time, “smile as you dial” and that’s OK”

It’s now a 5 for not performing well, and a 2 for “certain white South African woman”

Setup:

“Even though I was more concerned with my fear of this hatred than I was concerned for the client, I deeply accept myself.”

It’s now a o for all, except a 2 for “certain white South African woman”

Setup:

“White South African woman, I deeply love, accept and respect myself. I am worthwhile.”

Reminder:

“WSAW….Apartheid….. Hitler… Gestapo… Horror.. Horror… [crying].. This horror, this abomination, man’s horror onto man.”

I can’t bring WSAW under a 1. Maybe because I’m afraid of further abuse

Setup:

“EVEN THOUGH I STILL HAVE THIS WHITE SOUTH AFRICAN WOMAN HORROR FEELING, I DEEPLY AND COMPLETELY LOVE AND ACCEPT MYSELF” [crying]

Reminder:

“WSAW feeling”

I get a 0 and giggles for WSAW. I feel 0 for this morning’s call. I think next time I get an aggressive approach, I’ll tap straight away and let them talk while I put the phone away from my ear. Or something like that.

When you have a chronic physical condition, anything that either emotionally or physically has a negative impact on you can make the condition worse. EFT is one way of throwing away the emotional rubbish collecting in your system. In the same way that we dispose of our household rubbish regularly for home cleanliness and hygiene, I use EFT to dispose of negative emotions for my optimal physical health.

EFT with Me, Suzanne Zacharia, Practitioner

EFT Workshops Cape Town South Africa

—— EFT Course London-Kent UK —–

Disclaimer – You are advised to consult with your medical practitioner before embarking on any course of alternative, complementary, or beauty therapy. Our use of systems that are trademarked or have a registered trademark represents our views and not necessarily those of the trademark owners.

Check out my new confidence program and How I made Money and Succeeded Despite The Most Challenging Circumstances, both made when I got even better than at the time of this post 🙂 See videos of me on the page of this link and see for yourself how much EFT has helped me with my health. Thank you for reading this post and please share with someone who needs it 🙂

Abusive phonecall

A phonecall with a potential client turned into a sudden, unjustified torrent of verbal abuse in my direction. I know that some of my potential clients have somewhat extreme anger issues, and my training has been to deal with such events safely and calmly, but I was certainly not expecting this. I reacted quickly and calmly, ended the conversation politely, but was quite shaken afterwards.

Since then, I have had 2 EFT client sessions, and I’m calmer. But I saw a posting I did on Facebook and it’s so defensive. So I started tapping on my head and got a 3-4 for the phonecall. More like a 4.

Setup

“Even though I’m so upset, why treat me like this, I deeply love myself”

“Even though I cannot forgive this [abusive person], I love myself anyway”

“Even though s/he said x, I deeply love and accept myself”

Reminder

“X”

Now a 3 1/2.

Setup

“Even though I cannot forgive this [abusive person], I love myself anyway”

Reminder

“I cannot forgive this [abusive person]”

“S/he’s a hypocrite”

This daisy-chained to when I was in the UK, a South African called me for allergy investigation for her child, and I said what must have been a triggering word for her, totally innocently. I had started to say something like “When we approach with the attitude that milk must be eliminated, then we will keep up a feeling of fear and when we adopt the attitude of de-sensitizing, then our health improves and our world opens up.” The moment that woman heard “attitude”, she wwent ballistic, hurling abuse at me until, consumed with fury, she slammed the phone down.

Setup

“Attitude, I deeply accept myself”

Reminder

“F…ing stupid whacko BI..CH!”

OK, so I had an unfortunate choice of words…

“F…ed-up b**ch”

So I’ve forgiven today’s one, but I can’t forgive the whacki b..ch from a few years back

Setup

“Stupid b..ch, I can’t forgive her, not 100%, I deeply accept myself”

Reminder

“Can’t forgive f…ing stupid whacko BI..CH!”

Now I’ve got the giggles!

😀

When you have a chronic physical condition, anything that either emotionally or physically has a negative impact on you can make the condition worse. EFT is one way of throwing away the emotional rubbish collecting in your system. In the same way that we dispose of our household rubbish regularly for home cleanliness and hygiene, I use EFT to dispose of negative emotions for my optimal physical health.

EFT with Me, Suzanne Zacharia, PractitionerEFT Workshops Cape Town South AfricaEFT Course London-Kent UK ——

Disclaimer – You are advised to consult with your medical practitioner before embarking on any course of alternative, complementary, or beauty therapy. Our use of systems that are trademarked or have a registered trademark represents our views and not necessarily those of the trademark owners.

Check out my new confidence program made when I got even better than at the time of this post 🙂 See videos of me on the page of this link and see for yourself how much EFT has helped me with my health. Thank you for reading this post and please share with someone who needs it 🙂